The weekend is the perfect time to rest, recover and rejuvenate. The top two complaints that women make for not having or wanting sex is being too tired and too busy.
Let’s fix that, shall we?
If you’re serious about making sex a priority in your relationship, then here’s how you can make the most of your weekend so that you can do that:
Wake up naturally
If you’re used to waking up to an alarm, then I invite you to forgo it for the weekend and wake up without one. If you have young kids that normally wake you up, try to make plans for them to spend a weekend away with friends or family. Now, if your kids are older, then tell them you’re not to be disturbed until you come out of your bedroom. In the case of teenagers, you don’t have to worry, because they won’t be up before you. Guaranteed.
Most of us are tired because of:
- Poor sleep hygiene (not having a routine for winding down before bed to ensure a good night’s rest).
- Hormones (inability to fall asleep and/or waking up and not being able to get back to sleep).
- Workouts (either waking too early to squeeze in a workout before work— not a problem if you’ve had enough sleep, but a problem if you’re sacrificing sleep to do it; OR exercising too close to bedtime— and being too pumped up to sleep).
- Stress (which is mentally and physically exhausting and keeps us up all night worrying about it).
- Adrenal exhaustion (wired but tired— pushing to do too much all the time and now the body is saying no more).
- Pain (from injury or illness— likely caused by any of the above).
I could go on, but whatever the cause, you’re overtired. If you gave yourself permission to allow your body to rest until it’s ready to wake up, you would feel much better.
Have sex for breakfast
Morning sex is a great way to start the day.
You’ve gotten your sleep, you’re relaxed, and you’ve got his morning erection to work with!
Plus, men are tired and stressed too, and this gives you both an opportunity to have sex under the best circumstances.
This would be the time to enjoy some gourmet sex. The kind of sex that lasts for hours instead of minutes and with the “goal” of extending pleasure instead of a quick orgasm.
It’s quality time spent connecting on an intimate level as only lovers can.
Enjoy a yummy brunch
There’s nothing better than a good meal after you’ve worked up an appetite from morning sex. And since brunch is a combination of breakfast and lunch, you just got rid of one extra meal to make today!
And the nice thing is that you can have some things prepped in advance so that you can whip it up in no time.
- A fancy omelet (veggies pre-cut, cheese shredded, and herbs diced).
- Oatmeal with berries, yogurt, and granola (soak steel cut oats overnight, berries washed and granola and yogurt on standby).
- French toast or crepes with fruit and real whipped cream (make the egg batter ahead of time, hand whip real cream with some sugar and vanilla, prewash fruit and make when ready to eat).
- Poached or herb baked eggs with asparagus and a French baguette.
You get my point. Annnd now I’m hungry. LOL
The key here is to have a leisurely meal, to enjoy your food and find pleasure in each other’s company.
Make plans to do nothing
Yes, you heard me. Book the day off.
If the kids have soccer practice, make arrangements for someone else to pick them up or just forgo it. They’ll live.
If this is when you get all your shit done, don’t do it! I’m sure it can wait.
Perhaps this is when you’d be slaving all day for a fancy dinner party, well then, don’t plan one. Instead, order in and stay in your jammies all day.
Oh, and take a break from social media. Unless you’re reading my sex blogs. haha
Anyways, most of us aren’t used to doing nothing and so, at first, this will be a struggle. But once you realize how much better you feel when you’re not always doing something, you’ll see it as a good thing.
Give each other a sensual massage
I know what you’re thinking. Umm… we already had sex and we’ve got kids to look after. To which I respond, that’s great, and refer you back to suggestion #1 and how to deal with the kid “situation.” And there’s this thing called a lock. For your door. So you have privacy. If you don’t have one, get one!
I’m sure you’re also thinking that neither of you knows how to give a “proper” sensual massage, so I’ll stop you right there. Because it’s not about technique. It’s about being present and giving and receiving pleasure.
Doing whatever feels pleasurable and not feeling like you need to be doing it a certain way.
The same can be said about sex.
People always want to know “techniques.” Techniques are good and fine, but they can’t make up for not wanting to have sex in the first place.
When you’re already having sex regularly, then they can be helpful, but I would still argue, not necessary. This quote sums it up nicely…
“If the psyche is unwilling, no amount of technique can persuade it; and if the psyche is willing, no lack of technique can dissuade it.” ~ Ann Aldrich
Whether it’s sex or a massage, do what feels good.
If you’ve read any of my previous blogs, you will see that I am a big fan of self-pleasuring. And for good reason. If you want to know those reasons, check out the blog below.
Anyways, back to my suggestion…
It can be hard to find time during the week to devote to your self-pleasuring ritual, but on the weekend, there’s no excuse.
Self-pleasuring is meant to be indulgent. A chance to sink into your body and feel really good. And the weekend is the perfect time to do this.
Whether you self-pleasure on your own or in front of your husband, either is beneficial to your sex life. The more you know your body, the better sex will be and masturbating in front of your man allows you to be the exhibitionist and for him to be the voyeur. That’s sexy on both counts!
The quality of our lives should be measured by the quality of our relationships.
The relationship with our spouse being at the top of the list.
It’s not about how much money you make, what type of car you drive, or how much shit you get done in a day. In the grand scheme of things, none of those matters.
You can be busy and stressed out all week if you like, but if you can’t make time on the weekend to relax, rewind and rejuvenate and spend some time with the man you married, then you need to re-examine your priorities.
When we’re too tired or too busy for sex (or some quality time with our partner) then we are essentially saying that everything else is more important than they are. Think about that.
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