Learning is growing. Growing is evolving. That’s why learning a new language could translate into a more exciting relationship. Let me explain how.
When you learn a new language, you are learning something new… and learning something new will:
Make you more interesting.
What causes couples to lose interest in each other is their belief that they know everything about each other. They think they have you all figured out. If you decide to learn a new language, then that’s adding a new dimension to you. Adding something that wasn’t there before. Something different. Something unexpected.
It gives you something new to talk about.
It doesn’t take long until you become “that couple.” You know, the one that finishes each other’s sentences because you know exactly what the other person will say. Or maybe you aren’t even speaking? Why should you? You already know what the other person is thinking, right? Except that now you have something you can talk about. Maybe it’s some new words you learned. Maybe it’s an interesting phrase you picked up, like facciamo l’amore which means “let’s make love” in Italian.
Which brings me to my next point….
It can make you sound sexy.
Certain languages sound sexier than others, but anything said in French or Italian is a good way to go. They are sensual languages and for good reason. They sound sexy and they come from cultures who embrace their sexuality.
And speaking in another language might make it easier for you to talk dirty or tell him what you want. Even if it’s just to tell him that you want him… that would be j’ai envie de toi… in French.
Ooh la la… that does sound sexy!
It exercises your brain.
We all know that exercise is good for your body. Well, improved language skills are associated with the growth of the hippocampus and parts of the cerebral cortex… areas involved in memory thought and action. And this increased size is associated with improved memory and sharper thinking. This can make getting along with each other a bit easier… especially as you get older!
Always best to be on top of your game, right?
It’s an opportunity to step out of your comfort zone.
“The fullness of life resides on the edge of your comfort zone.”
I don’t know who said that, but I do believe it.
If you don’t learn new things, you will never grow. Not growing is being stagnant. That’s boring. You don’t want to be boring. You want to be exciting.
Always aim for exciting.
It’s a great way to increase your self-confidence.
“The quickest way to acquire self-confidence is to do exactly what you are afraid to do.” ~Anonymous.
Most people are intimidated by learning another language. I get it.
BUT… this is probably less frightening, and less risky, than skydiving! Not that I’m against that, but baby steps are easier than giant leaps (pun intended), and this can help you get your feet wet.
Just know that every accomplishment starts with the decision to try.
It will provide you with another way of seeing things.
As with anything you learn, when you expand your mind, you expand your way of seeing things. It can change your perspective. When learning a new language, you inevitably learn something about its culture. What you learn about others can be interesting and enlightening. I have always found it fascinating to learn phrases that have no direct translation or that cannot be adequately explained in English. That’s because it is unique to their culture and their beliefs.
When you can learn to see things in a different way, it opens up a whole new world to you.
It can make traveling together more enjoyable.
When it comes to traveling, there is nothing more satisfying than ordering your meal in a foreign language. Plus, it’s a neat way to impress your man! Maybe your next vacation together will be the impetus to learn a new language? What can be better than immersing yourself in the culture… before you go? Travel is more fun when you understand the language, and even better if you can speak it!
This can make your vacation so much more exciting… because it increases anticipation for it.
Anticipation is always a good thing.
Why learning is a good thing…
Anytime you learn anything new, you’re bringing something new into your relationship.
We all know what it feels like in a new relationship. You want to learn everything about each other. Their favourite movies. Where they lived. What flavour of ice cream they like.
At some point, you get the answers to all these questions, and unfortunately, those answers don’t really change over time.
You need new questions. And to have new questions, you must try new things.
Sometimes you can try new things together, and sometimes you try new things on your own.
When you go it alone, you are forced to be in new environments, meet new people and have a life outside of your relationship. This can be a good thing.
Being in a relationship means sharing a life together, and possibly a lot of other passions as well, but independence is sexy too.
Having your own hobbies and interests ensures that you maintain your sense of “self”.
It ensures that you don’t lose yourself… because you are staying true to you and what you want. It’s important to have your own passions and interests.
Whether it is learning to play tennis, or taking piano lessons, or learning a new language, it’s an opportunity for personal growth, as well as for relationship growth.
“Learn something new. Try something different. Convince yourself that you have no limits.” ~ Brain Tracy
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