Kissing: “You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how.”
Ahh… kissing. If you’ve seen the movie Gone with the Wind, you’d recognize that quote from Rhett Butler to Scarlett O’Hara.
Not only is this my favourite movie of all time, but I was in love with Rhett’s character. #swoon
He wasn’t a “gentleman” exactly… but that’s precisely what I liked about him!
He was a passionate man who exuded sexuality and masculinity.
That’s the kind of man you want to kiss you!
Or at least the kind that I want to have kiss me! But, I digress…
What exactly is a kiss?
A kiss can be described as the touch or pressing of one’s lips against another person or an object. It can:
- lower your blood pressure (better for your health)
- increase serotonin levels (making you happy)
- produce dopamine (reinforce reward and pleasure)
- flood your body with oxytocin (which increases bonding)
- improve your immune system (get sick less often)
- decrease pain (feel better)
- lower your cortisol (reduce your stress hormone)
Not bad, right? But a kiss is so much more than that…
A kiss can be a tender expression of love or it can be a passionate expression of lust.
Frankly, I want both, but more of the latter!
Feeling passion and lust is what makes us feel alive. And kissing can be powerfully erotic while at the same time encouraging deeper intimacy.
If you haven’t been doing much kissing lately, or are looking forward to kissing someone new, remember that kissing is an art form.
It takes time and practice before you figure out what you both like… and how to give that to each other.
A first kiss is unlike any other because there is so much anticipation. Even still, there’s no guarantee that it’ll be great—regardless of the chemistry between you.
What you do have going for you in a new relationship is that even a bad kiss, can still be a good kiss, because you are in the infatuation phase!
But what if you’ve been in a relationship for some time now?
Do you still feel sparks when you kiss?
If not, then you need to start doing something about that!
You’d be amazed at how romantic and sensual kissing can be… when you make the time for it.
Which brings me to…
Why we should be kissed often…
Umm…. because it feels good. Because it gets our juices flowing. Because it’s what lovers do!
Kissing, even after years of being in a relationship, can be the slow-burning embers that stoke the fire of lust to burn hot again.
It can open up a new level of sensuality. At the very least, it can be somewhere to start if you have not been intimate for a while.
It doesn’t even have to be a prelude to sex, although it can certainly end up there.
And don’t think that kissing is only for foreplay…
Some of the most intense lovemaking sessions happen when you are locking lips at the same time. It doubles your pleasure!
In case you didn’t know: Because of the high number of nerve endings, the lips are a highly erogenous zone. Simply kissing them can create sexual arousal. Once you are aroused, it will be that much easier to get your partner aroused. Oh boy!
How do we make sure that we get kissed by someone who knows how?
Well, for starters, we make it a priority by setting aside time for it. Someone needs to get the ball rolling, and it may as well begin with you.
Neither one of you becomes a better kisser by not kissing. It’s all about the practice.
You’ll also want to ensure that your breath is fresh and that your lips are inviting.
Oral hygiene is key. This goes for both parties!
As for making your lips more inviting, be sure that your lips are soft and supple.
Men are attracted to a woman’s softness, so start with luscious lips.
Exfoliate often and keep them well moisturized. Always.
Tip: A little sugar mixed with coconut oil makes a great scrub. Rub it gently on your lips and use a wet face cloth to remove it.
Once you’re good to go, you can start with soft kisses to tease your man. Then use the power of touch to elevate your kiss. Put your hands to work by caressing whatever it is that you think will get a rise out of him!
But you don’t have to go right for the “goods”. You can run your fingers through his hair or run your hand up his shirt and play with his nipple.
I’m sure he’ll like it. But when in doubt, ask him.
If the kissing is pleasurable… let him know! Be vocal. Don’t be afraid to moan if you’re feeling turned on!
Excitement and arousal are contagious. Keep spreading it back and forth!
Once you are both feeling more passionate, then you can become more exploratory with the kissing. Get into it a little more.
Try sucking and gently nibbling on his lower lip.
If your man happens to enjoy it, then lucky him.
If he doesn’t… but you do… then tell him you’re doing it anyway! Just kidding.
Although I’m sure if he knows you are enjoying yourself, he won’t protest too much.
Most importantly, don’t take the whole thing too seriously. Sometimes kissing is fun and playful, and that’s good too.
If you want to know what he likes… ask him!
If there’s something he did that you liked… tell him!
Don’t forget: practice makes perfect.
Get out there and practice, practice, practice!