Intuition may sound woo woo and seem like an odd topic when it comes to sexuality, but it really isn’t. In fact, it’s an integral part of a woman’s feminine nature. One which affects all areas of her life, including her health, her happiness, her relationships, and her sexuality. Intuition is a natural ability that is vastly under-rated and sadly, under-utilized. What exactly is it?
- the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.
- a thing that one knows or considers likely from instinctive feeling rather than conscious reasoning.
Your intuition is a personal guidance system and life-preserver all-in-one.
“Intuition is the treasure of a woman’s psyche. It is like a divining instrument and like a crystal through which one can see with uncanny interior vision.” ~ Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D
Since many things are not what they appear to be, a woman must rely on her intuition and instincts to see the truth. Whether it’s regarding people, places, situations or things, intuition is your guide.
“A woman knows by intuition, or instinct, what is best for herself.” ~ Marilyn Munroe
Additionally, a woman must have the ability to stand her ground in light of what she “sees.” Meaning that instead of going along, in order to “get along”, a woman must resist the need to please and comply.
“Compliance causes a shocking realization that must be registered by all women. That is, to be ourselves causes us to be exiled by many others, and yet to comply with what others want causes us to be exiled from ourselves.” ~ Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D
Compliance can create tension (from inner resistance) and resentment over time. This can build up in your relationships but also physically manifest as illness and disease in the body.
How do we connect with our intuition?
We listen to our bodies
To hear our intuition, we need to listen to our bodies, not our minds. This means listening to that inner knowing that comes from within the body, such as your heart, your gut, and even your bones. Not from your brain.
Intuition is visceral, not intellectual.
“Intuition is the journey from A to Z without stopping at any other letter along the way. It is knowing without knowing why.” Gavin De Becker
How many times do we already know what to do or what not to do and then we try to use reason and logic? We allow beliefs and judgment to muddy the waters. Instead of listening to our intuition, we talk ourselves out of it.
But intuition knows the right course of action. Always listen to it.
We pay attention to our feelings
Women are naturally connected to their feelings. Unfortunately, we have learned to suppress our feelings because feelings are seen as a weakness. Moreover, we tend to judge and convict our feelings instead of honouring them.
According to Gavin’s De Becker, in his book The Gift of Fear, there are 13 messengers of intuition:
- Nagging feelings
- Persistent thoughts
- Dark humour
- Gut feelings
These signals range from least to most urgent. Fear being the most urgent because true fear is one of our greatest survival instincts. And aside from persistent thoughts (which can be the body’s way of getting your attention), these signs describe feelings.
Intuition is a feeling, not a thought.
When we give ourselves permission to honour our feelings, we can better access our intuition.
We trust ourselves
So much faith is placed outside of ourselves. When we blindly follow the advice of other people or institutions, we risk going against what is in our best interests. We’re essentially giving away our power. We aren’t honouring our intuition, we’re bypassing it in favour of someone else’s opinions or agendas. We’re letting others make decisions for us. That’s the definition of disempowerment… to take away someone’s confidence and feeling of being in control of their life. Unfortunately,
“Even when intuition speaks in the clearest terms, even when the message gets through, we may still seek an outside opinion before we’ll listen to ourselves.” ~ Gavin De Becker
You can listen to advice from others, but always check in with your intuition. If something resonates with you, it’s likely because it’s in alignment with your inner knowing. If it doesn’t, why would you follow it?
There’s no putting your head in the sand and ignoring your intuition. If you do, you’re at the mercy of others.
Confidence comes from trusting ourselves.
And the more we trust our intuition, the more confident we become.
We have patience
We don’t always get what we want when we want it. Sometimes we need to wait. This applies to answers as well.
Have you ever experienced a time when you just couldn’t figure something out, or make up your mind, no matter how hard you tried? In fact, the more you thought about it, the more frustrated you became.
Well, sometimes you just need to step back, leave it alone and sleep on it. Simply asking the question before bed allows the psyche to sort everything out and supply us with an answer when we wake up.
The answer is always within you.
We already “know” the answer, we just need to let it come to the surface. It’s sort of like creativity. Creativity is always there, we just have to allow it to flow. And that can’t happen if you’re forcing it.
We honour the feminine
The masculine and the feminine are equal but opposite energies and essences. They’re different but complementary to each other. And their strengths lie in their differences.
The feminine has her own superpowers.
Intuition is one of them. Her feelings are another. And they both work together to her advantage.
Being a woman is a gift.
When we learn to use our gifts, we are naturally empowered.
Why is intuition important?
The amount of health, relationship and sexual misinformation that is out there is staggering. If it’s widely-believed, heavily-promoted, and generally-applied it’s usually the OPPOSITE of what would truly help and heal you. This is why you need to become fully grounded in your body and learn to listen to your intuition and your own common sense. Otherwise, trying to navigate all the bullshit out there will be impossible.
You need to be your own advocate.
We live in a see-it-to-believe-it society. We are conditioned to trust science and empirical evidence above everything else… including our intuition. Feelings aren’t scientific enough. Personal experiences are considered anecdotal and unreliable because they aren’t based on research and facts.
However, spirituality, hope and faith are not something that can be weighed, measured and reproduced and yet they are more important than some peer-reviewed study. Our intuition is the same. And it’s trustworthy because our intuition always has our backs. It’s looking out for you. Not governments, institutions and stock-holders. And bear in mind that society is designed to encourage conformity, not individuality. It doesn’t like when someone questions, disagrees and believes something different.
CONFORMITY is the tendency to align our attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors with those around us. It’s a powerful force that can take the form of overt social pressure or subtler, unconscious influence. No matter how it’s done, it’s rarely in your personal best interest. Only you can decide what is best for you!
A confident woman makes up her own damn mind.
She’s not swayed by public opinion. She doesn’t care if everyone likes or approves of her. She isn’t trying to be like everyone else and do what everyone else is doing. It’s not about complying and appeasing others. It’s about doing what’s best for her. And she does that by following her intuition above all else.
Fascinating books to read:
The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker
This book can save your life. ~ The Gift of Fear
(I read this book almost 20 years ago and I still remember and apply the wisdom from it)
Women Who Run With The Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
Within every woman there lives a powerful force, filled with good instincts, passionate creativity, and ageless knowing. She is the Wild Woman, who represents the instinctual nature of women. ~ Women Who Run With The Wolves.
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