Reclaim your sexual self & feel better in your body
{without the stress of figuring out how to do it, the endless hours of research and having to sift through all of the misinformation out there}
If you’re a married woman over 40 looking to have more passion and intimacy in your relationship….
Then you already know that this takes time, energy and knowhow… and hopefully a partner that’s involved in the process.
But it’s hard to create the sex life you want when there’s just so much fluff and superficial suggestions out there that don’t actually help you. And it’s equally hard to take care of your health when there’s so much conflicting and biased information that you can’t decide what to do.
Not to mention that there’s no honest discussion or quality information on female sexuality, femininity, and relationships and there’s definitely no adequate explanations or solutions to female health issues and chronic health conditions… unless you know exactly where to look.
Everything out there is focused on losing weight, being strong and successful, looking sexy, pleasing your man or having mind-blowing orgasms. There’s nothing wrong with any of those except that they don’t appreciate the fact that:
- you’re tired and exhausted much of the time
- you’re too busy
- there’s no romance or affection or intimacy anymore
- you have hormonal issues or chronic health conditions
- you’re stressed all the time
- you have kids and lots of responsibilities
- there’s no pleasure and joy in your life
- your husband is having sexual issues or no longer wants sex
- you have difficulty relaxing and enjoying sex
- you don’t feel attracted to your husband the way you used to
- sex is currently boring or unsatisfying and you’d rather watch Netflix
- you can’t express your wants and needs because you’re worried about hurting his feelings
- you struggle with self-confidence and body image and
- you’re harbouring some feelings of anger and resentment toward your spouse… and more.
You want:
- greater intimacy and connection
- more satisfying sex
- deeper and more fulfilling orgasms
- more sexual confidence
- a stronger libido
- more passion and excitement in your relationship
- more joy and happiness in your life
- to feel more sexy, desirable and full of vitality
You’ve tried:
- reading books and blogs and listening to podcasts (but don’t know how to apply what you’ve learned))
- making an effort (but he’s not)
- Experimenting with new things (but they only work temporarily or not at all)
- buying some sex toys and/or watching some porn (but that only made you feel less passionate about sex)
- talking about your wants and needs (but you didn’t feel heard or trust that they will be met)
- not pushing the issue (as a means of forestalling rejection or out of fear of making things worse) or
- avoiding it and waiting for something to change (but nothing is changing)
It’s not your fault…
that…
- You don’t feel sexy
- Your husband isn’t making you feel desired
- You’re not interested in sex or
- You’re interested but he’s not
- You don’t feel good about your body
- You have subconscious beliefs that are holding you back
- You’ve had negative sexual experiences in the past
- You don’t know what you don’t know
- You don’t feel comfortable talking about sex
- Culture, society and religion have vilified sex and pleasure
- There’s a lot of misinformation out there about sex and health
- You’re disconnected from your body
- You don’t know how to reconnect with your femininity and
- Men don’t know how to reclaim their masculinity
So, what can you do?
- You can learn from someone who’s gone before you. I’ve been where you are, I’ve done the work and I’ve gotten the results. I can show you how.
- You can get answers. You simply fill out a private feedback/questions form asking your question and I answer it the following week in a private email.
- You can apply only what resonates with you. You can pick and choose what you intuitively feel would best help you. That’s what I did. After reading over 150 books and a LOT of other resources and listening to HUNDREDS of podcasts and radio shows, I have vetted some excellent sources and resources that were real game-changers for me and that I know will help you.
- You can go at your own pace and build upon what you’re doing, so that changes are lasting and sustainable.
- You can start getting your sexy back right now!
Getting your sexy back means…
- feeling juicy and alive
- feeling good in your body
- making yourself a priority
- feeling gratitude for being a woman
- feeling sexy and desirable
- having a pleasurable and fulfilling sex life
- radiating health and beauty from the inside out
- feeling joy and bliss
- letting go of the need to please & worrying what others think
- no more pushing and trying to do it all
- being grounded in your femininity and appreciative of the masculine
- knowing that your sexuality is ageless
- the courage to follow your passions
- being confident
- being your own best advocate
- trusting yourself and listening to your intuition
- feeling truly content with yourself and your life
- knowing that you’re worthy
- enjoying life and all it has to offer…. and more
Introducing…
My online course
The course covers 4 main areas:
Health, sensuality, relationships and sexuality.*
Health
Without our health we have nothing. But vibrant health is taken for granted, or more commonly, not experienced and so we go through life with less vitality than we should.
Any course that offers to help you with your sexuality without first addressing your health is, in my opinion, assuming you are in perfect health or doesn’t understand the impact it can have on your sexuality and wellbeing.
Every attempt that I have made to improve my sexuality always started with improving my health… first. Health is the foundation. Without it, you won’t have the energy or the interest to improve your libido and/or focus on your sex life.
Women often struggle with their cycles, PMS symptoms and with perimenopause and menopause. While the issues related to female reproductive health are common, they certainly aren’t normal and can actually be easily resolved. And in doing so, would allow women to be their best selves, instead of being held back.
Sensuality
Our five senses… sight, sound, touch, taste and smell… are the basic ingredients of a sensual and pleasurable life. And pleasure is our birthright. However, most women are unable to relax and get into their bodies and out of their heads for long enough to enjoy any of it.
Relaxation, pleasure, presence, increased sensitivity and a willingness to slow down and savour our experiences can help us to reconnect with our innate sensuality.
Unfortunately, the frantic pace of our lives, the endless list of responsibilities and the constant need to please others and keep up with the other women means that we lose touch with our sensual selves and become even more disconnected from our bodies.
The good news is that we can train ourselves to redirect our attention and heighten our sensitivity toward pleasure and become sensual once again. With more focus on our pleasure, our bodies, our breasts and our orgasms, we can fully awaken our senses and feel vital and alive.
Relationships
Relationships are built on sameness but sexual attraction is based on differences. And as anyone in a long-term relationship knows, you can love each other and not necessarily want to have sex with each other. You can enjoy the commitment but lack the passion and eroticism. You can want the stability but yearn for excitement.
But along with those paradoxes, women are given the message that they can be anything and do everything, not just from social media but from other high performance and successful women themselves. And thus the Superwoman syndrome is indoctrinated into most of us. Many women can successfully juggle the demands of a career, childrearing, being beautiful, physically fit and sexually desirable… but at the expense of their pleasure, their sexuality and their relationship.
For many women, their hearts ache for love, attention and appreciation from their man. For many men, they want nothing more than to provide for, be trusted by and to be the hero to the woman in their life. Unfortunately, without a change in priorities and a realization of the importance of our sexual relationships, couples will struggle to create the intimacy that they require and the sexual fulfillment that they desire.
Sexuality
Sex is everywhere and yet rarely discussed. And there are so many impediments between a woman and her sexuality… stress, anxiety, overwhelm, trauma, a lack of sexual knowledge, negative self-talk, sexual conditioning, shame, trust issues… and the list goes on. And for these reasons, it can be easy for a woman to believe that she’s not sexual or that something is wrong with her.
For women to regain their sexuality requires more time spent on discovering themselves, their bodies and their sexual pleasure. Sexuality is our life force because it creates life, energy and power. We feel alive and full of creativity when we reclaim our sexuality. And when we become sexually empowered everything improves, especially our relationships.
When a woman takes full responsibility and ownership of her own sexuality, performance pressure dissipates, intimacy deepens and she becomes the radiant, loving and happy woman that she is meant to be.
Here’s what you get…
The Ultimate Guide Includes:
Mobile access
Because this is a digital course, you can access it from your mobile device as well as your computer or iPad.
And with the mobile app feature, you’ll be able to read or watch all of my content right from your phone.
The app also automatically saves your progress… even when you switch between sessions and devices.
Log in to the course at any time, from anywhere, and with complete privacy.
Frequently Asked Questions
$197 USD
PART 1
HEALTH &
SENSUALITY
4 Modules
Includes Bonuses
$197 USD
PART 2
RELATIONSHIPS &
SEXUALITY
4 Modules
Includes Bonuses
$297 USD
ULTIMATE GUIDE
PARTS 1 & 2
8 Modules
Best Deal/Includes Bonuses
Part 1- Health & Sensuality
Overcoming Obstacles Part 1 - Module 1
Here you uncover limiting beliefs, learn to give yourself permission, to make yourself a priority and to practice taking better care of yourself.
Healthy Body Healthy Libido Part 1 - Module 2
Here we cover the 4 main areas of health: stress reduction, getting enough sleep, eating right and exercising.
Connecting With Your Sensuality Part 1 - Module 3
To be sure, women are naturally sensual, but we can all benefit from making the most of our pleasure, our bodies, our breasts and our orgasms.
Hormonal Harmony part 1 - Module 4
Part 2 – Relationships & Sexuality
Sexual Polarity Part 2 - Module 5
There’s a reason they say… opposites attract. But very few people understand the critical importance of polarity in a sexual relationship. The concepts of yin and yang, as well as femininity and masculinity, sexual energy and sexual paradoxes are covered in this module. The Sexual Polarity module is available to purchase separately! Click HERE.
Men Part 2 - Module 6
With a better understanding and appreciation of men, couples can live more harmoniously together. In this module, we get to know men better, learn how they function sexually and how we can create more intimacy. All of this leads to more pleasure and better sex and fulfillment.
Reigniting Desire Part 2 - Module 7
For many couples in long-term relationships, desire and passion has fizzled. We may love our partners, but we aren’t necessarily sexually attracted to them anymore. Or we may be the one wanting sex, but our partner doesn’t seem to. Either way, we have the power to fix all that and this module shows you how.
Sexual Mastery Part 2 - Module 8
There are more ways to have sex than the masculine approach of goal-based, climax-focused, fast sex that we normally experience. In this module, we learn about total body sensuality, slow sex and tantric sex… which are a more feminine approach to lovemaking.
Bonus: Extra Resources
Because I know that you’re eager to learn and take your health, sensuality, relationships and sexuality to new heights… I offer book and blog suggestions and other related material so that you can learn even more! Everything you need will be provided in the course, but these are additional resources should you have an area you wish to explore more deeply.
This course is for you if...
- You’re self-motivated and eager to make some improvements to your life. Like, yesterday.
- You know that there are things you don’t know about health and sexuality… and you want to learn them.
- You want a more fulfilling sex life and you’re willing to put in the time and effort to get it. That’s my girl!
- You’re also willing to invest in yourself… be it with time or money… or both. Because you’re worth it.
- You’re interested in learning natural ways to resolving your PMS, perimenopause and menopausal symptoms. You want healthier alternatives.
- You’re open to learning new things… and applying them. Because that’s how you change your life.
- You know how to bring yourself to orgasm, but you want to have bigger and better orgasms. And you want to experience all the different kinds of orgasms.
- You’re willing to take responsibility for your health and sexuality. You prefer to keep your power.
- You’re ready to get off the hamster wheel, slow down and experience more pleasure in your life.
- You want to embrace your femininity and encourage your man to step up to his true masculinity.
- You’re ready for a change. In fact, you’re already excited and looking forward to it.
- You no longer want to get more done, but instead, want to have less to do. Less go, more flow.
This course is NOT for you if...
- You’re a man. Sorry, but this course is for women only. You may want to help your wife, but she has to want to do this for herself. You can’t want it for her.
- You’re not ready to make yourself, your health and your sex life a priority. These are mandatory.
- You’re not ready to slow down. This is a dealbreaker.
- You want to “have it all” and “do it all.” Sorry, but this is not sustainable and not the path to happiness.
- You’re not open to new ideas and new ways of thinking and being. That means you want to stay where you are.
- You only trust science and what can be seen or “proven.” True knowing comes from within.
- You’re not willing to challenge old beliefs. Sadly, you can’t change what you won’t acknowledge.
- You can’t justify spending this much money on yourself. You don’t need to justify your worthiness, and if you do, you need to work on why you think you are unworthy. I’d start there.
- You’ve suffered severe sexual trauma or abuse. I’m so sorry. I have neither the experience nor qualifications to help you. Please seek professional help.
- You’re not willing to step out of your comfort zone. This is a prerequisite because all growth requires it.
- You would rather make excuses, blame others for your unhappiness and/or play the victim/martyr. Unfortunately, I can’t help you then.
- You dislike men. This is for women who want to love more, not less, and to be cherished by her man.
- You want a quick fix. Health & sexuality are not quick fixes. Anything worth having takes time & energy.
- You’re all about high performance and external success. Happiness and confidence are an inside job.
- You would rather take drugs or have surgery to “fix” things. That’s giving your power away.
- You’re not willing to accept responsibility for your part of the relationship. Maturity means owning that and doing something about it.
more frequently asked Questions
$197 USD
PART 1
HEALTH &
SENSUALITY
4 Modules
Includes Bonuses
$197 USD
PART 2
RELATIONSHIPS &
SEXUALITY
4 Modules
Includes Bonuses
$297 USD
ULTIMATE GUIDE
PARTS 1 & 2
8 Modules
Best Deal/Includes Bonuses
My Passion
I created my website and my online courses as a means of sharing the information I’ve learned with as many women as possible. Why? Because I believe many women aren’t truly happy with themselves and their lives. I also believe that many women aren’t in touch with their bodies and their sensuality, and therefore, missing out on their greatest gifts… their femininity and their sexuality.
I’m incredibly passionate about how important our health and sexuality are to our happiness and I want every woman to know and experience this!
My purpose
I’ve always wanted to have children and be a wife. And I’ve been fortunate enough to be a stay-at-home mother and raise my children. I was able to do what I wanted to do and my husband did a wonderful job of providing for us. But now that my children have gotten older, and my marriage and sex life are in a good place and I know how to maintain them, I have the desire to help other women to experience the happiness and contentment that I have found.
My Vision
While there’s no denying the great strides the women’s movement made in allowing women more power and equality, in this pursuit, many women have taken on a more masculine role. But a woman does not claim her feminine power or increase sexual polarity by becoming more masculine. Instead of being told how a woman should look and behave, she must define for herself what a powerfully feminine woman looks and feels like.
My hope is that women will become less focused on emulating the masculine, embrace their femininity and become more focused on transcending their perception of personal limitation and inferiority. Because the feminine is NOT weak or inferior.
I envision a future where women don’t feel the need to push to make things happen but rather learn to respect their natural rhythms and go with the flow of life. More grace and less grit.
Essentially, more being and enjoying… and less doing and burning out.
“My goal is no longer to get more done, but rather to have less to do.” ~ Francine Jay
I’m Stephanie and I’m the brains & beauty 🙂 behind…
Sensuality In Bloom Inc.
and the online course:
How To Get Your Sexy Back – The Ultimate Guide.
I’m not a doctor, a psychiatrist or a sex therapist. I’m simply a woman who has been at both ends of the libido spectrum and who has taken an intense interest in learning everything I can about sex and health and how to increase pleasure and joy in my life.
Basically, I’ve learned a LOT, and because I’m not trained or indoctrinated into any belief system or have to follow any mandated protocols, I’m free to consider ALL perspectives, ideas and options.
And I encourage self-empowerment through listening to our bodies and intuition, challenging our beliefs and becoming our own health advocates.
My Story
I’m 55 years old, married for 32 of those, and the mother of two boys who are 21 and 26 years old. I’m happy and healthy and I have a fulfilling sex life.
However, it wasn’t always this way.
I would say that I normally had a very high libido. Although, long-term use of birth control pills, taking 3 years to get pregnant, and suffering 2 miscarriages, did take a toll on my libido and my sex life.
After going through so much to have my children, it was easy to devote my life to them, but I lost myself in the process. Then one day, I realized that I wasn’t happy. The kids were getting older and didn’t need me as much, and my husband and I were living like roommates… instead of lovers.
And that made me sad because I loved my husband. But I just didn’t feel like having sex with him. That’s when I knew that something was wrong and needed to change. And not just for him, but for me too.
I was stressed, exhausted and I wasn’t sleeping well. I looked old, I felt old and I had no libido. I was miserable and I knew I had to do something.
I was always keen on studying health and nutrition, but it became a real motivation when I actually felt terrible. So I immersed myself in health and making myself a priority and made some drastic changes to reduce stress and improve sleep. I did the work, and within months, I felt so much better.
However, it was my intense desire to learn everything I could about sex that helped get my libido going. It turns out that I had been suppressing my sexuality and sabotaging my own pleasure. And thus began a passionate mission to regain my sexuality and increase pleasure in my life.
Getting my sexy back… and feeling good in my body… reminded me of what I was missing out on. More importantly, though, it encouraged me to make myself, my health, and my sex life a priority. No more being at the bottom of my list.
Not only did I get my libido back, but my efforts kick-started our sex life again. When you haven’t had much sex over the past couple of years, it can be difficult to get back into it. But now I knew that I was happiest when I was expressing my sexuality, not when I was denying it. And I loved feeling luscious and sensual… and freaking amazing!
I felt like a new, younger, vibrant and sexy woman. To go from no sex drive to a rockstar sex drive reminded me of how good that feels. And that’s what made me want to research sex as if my life depended on it… because it did. I had gotten a taste of bliss, and I would do whatever it took to continue to have it.
Everything I learned made sex that much better. I gained a whole new perspective on sex. I learned to see and do things differently and this had a major impact on my enjoyment of sex.
Getting my sexy back was a game-changer, but so was fixing my health, and making myself… and my sex life… a priority. I was happier, healthier and a whole lot nicer. It was hands down, the best decision I’ve ever made.
A sexy woman is someone who…
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Is confident… both in, and out, of the bedroom.
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Is comfortable in her own skin.
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Loves her body and takes care of herself.
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Knows that her health is the foundation.
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Owns and embraces her sexuality.
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Knows how to enjoy life and indulge in pleasure.
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Focuses on her strengths, not on her weaknesses.
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Is not afraid to ask for what she wants and needs.
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Is authentic and honest.
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Follows her intuition and listens to her body.
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Has a magnetic energy that others are drawn to.
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Lives passionately.
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Is interesting and exciting and approachable.
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Has an open heart and feels everything.
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Knows that other women can be her greatest source of support.
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Is happy, playful and full of vitality!
$197 USD
PART 1
HEALTH &
SENSUALITY
4 Modules
Includes Bonuses
$197 USD
PART 2
RELATIONSHIPS &
SEXUALITY
4 Modules
Includes Bonuses
$297 USD
ULTIMATE GUIDE
PARTS 1 & 2
8 Modules
Best Deal/Includes Bonuses
Here’s what you might still be thinking…
I’m too busy
If you’re so busy that you don’t have any time left over to look after yourself and your relationship, then you have likely created this busy-ness as a means of distraction and/or because you feel unworthy in some way and struggle with the misguided believe that your worth is tied to what you DO and ACCOMPLISH.
But busy-ness is just a coping mechanism to ignore your unhappiness or to avoid dealing with issues in your relationship. I want you to be self-confident and fulfilled so that you’re not filling this void with everything else.
Look, if you have time to spend on social media, watching Netflix or listening to podcasts, then you have time. It’s a matter of priorities.
You’ll need an hour a day to spend on the course. If that sounds like a lot, ask yourself why these other things are more important to you.
Bottom line: If you’re too busy to prepare a healthy meal, get enough sleep, go for a walk in nature, have sex, read a book (insert something you would like to do for yourself), then you are too busy to enjoy life.
What are you trying to avoid? Who are you trying to impress? Why is everyone and everything more important than you?
It’s not a good time
This is a variation of concern #1 except that you’re saying that you’re particularly busy now. Perhaps it’s a project or another commitment. If so, then maybe it’s not a good time for you.
But let me ask you: When do you think it will be a good time? Next month? Next year? Will there ever be a good time?
There’s an old Chinese proverb that says:
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.”
If you want vibrant health and sexual vitality now… and in the future… the best time to act is now.
You may think that you can put this off until you have the time. But as women, we are always busy. There will always be things to do.
On your death bed, are you going to be wishing you got more shit done or enjoyed the life you were given?
One of the first things I said to myself after getting my sexy back was: why didn’t I do this sooner? And I promise you that I regretted putting it off.
Don’t choose busy-ness over happiness.
I’m not sure if I can do this
Many women don’t feel thin enough, pretty enough, smart enough, accomplished enough or just plain good enough.
But your self-worth isn’t determined by your weight, your looks, your education, or your success. It’s determined by your internal beliefs. What you believe about yourself matters.
Do you feel unworthy of great health and an amazing sex life? If so, why do you think that is?
And is it possible that this lack of self-worth may be negatively impacting those things? I would argue that it is. And how do you plan to resolve this? So many questions, I know, but they are all important ones to be asking yourself.
Look, the only person who decides your worthiness is you. Decide that you’re worthy and you are. Decide that you’re not, and you’re that instead. Which would you prefer to be?
If you want to feel worthy, believe that you’re worthy and then, start acting like it. Believe it and you can achieve it. Start now.
It’s too expensive
Would you like to know what’s really expensive? A divorce.
And not just financially expensive, but mentally and emotionally expensive too.
Would you like to know what else is really expensive? Marriage counselors and sex therapists. They cost almost as much as lawyers. Or maybe one of you resorts to an affair.
But let’s just say that you don’t feel you “need” to take this course… because your marriage is “fine.” Well, there’s another cost. Regret. (see “now is not a good time”)
Let me ask you: What is your health & happiness worth to you? Can you really afford not to make these a priority?
Sadly, our society devalues health and sexuality. It’s common to spend 1000’s of dollars on so many things – mostly material things – yet people balk at spending money on their health and well-being… until they’re sick, frustrated, unhappy and unfulfilled… and then they’ll pay anything for a quick fix. Not very proactive or empowered. But I believe that the time and money invested in our health and sexuality are worth it.
We can invest now or pay later. It’s up to you.
I’m not sure it will work for me
There are no guarantees in life, but as Marianne Williamson says:
“Everyone has faith of some kind. You either have faith in possibility or you have faith that that possibility doesn’t exist.”
Have a little faith in possibility.
What if it does work? What if it’s life-changing? What if it’s the best thing you’ve ever done for yourself? Your husband? Your family?
Look, I can’t “guarantee” it will work because I can’t guarantee that you’ll be open to seeing things differently, receptive to the suggestions and doing the work. But I will promise you that if you show up and are willing to learn and incorporate at least some of the suggestions, that you will be happier, healthier and sexier.
How do I know for sure? Because any time we invest in ourselves, learn new things, take better care of ourselves and connect to our femininity and life force, we win.
The surest way to maintain the status quo is to keep doing the same thing you’ve been doing. Let me ask you: How is that working out for you?
You don’t know what you don’t know, so until you learn something new and do something different, things will remain the same.
If you’ve made it this far…
Then you want to do this…
but you’re letting fear stop you.
I get it. This can be intimidating. And in a way, I had it easier because I didn’t really know what I was signing up for. I just went on a journey of discovery where I learned something and applied it and then learned something else and applied that… and kept going.
But it took a LOT of time and a LOT of money and I wish that someone had already done some of the work and saved me both. That way I would have reaped the rewards sooner.
If you’ve got the time and money to read over 150 books, watch countless webinars & videos, read newsletters, articles & medical journals, listen to hundreds of podcasts & radio shows and take courses… to learn what I’ve learned over the past 10 years… then I commend you on your commitment, your investment and the dedication that it requires to be that thorough. You are just like me.
I will only say that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. Meaning that you have to sift through a lot of information that’s not helpful before you come upon the stuff that is. It’s a journey for sure and if that’s the journey you decide to take, I wish you all the best. As long as you’re putting effort into your health and sexuality, whether it’s with me or on your own, you are amazing.
But whatever you decide, understanding that your health and sexuality are not a quick fix will save you a lot of frustration. Making an effort to enjoy the process will give you the greatest rewards. xo
Contact Me
If you’ve still got questions, please don’t hesitate to send me an email and I will get back to you as soon as possible.
$197 USD
PART 1
HEALTH &
SENSUALITY
4 Modules
Includes Bonuses
$197 USD
PART 2
RELATIONSHIPS &
SEXUALITY
4 Modules
Includes Bonuses
$297 USD
ULTIMATE GUIDE
PARTS 1 & 2
8 Modules
Best Deal/Includes Bonuses
You don’t know what you don’t know. Empowerment comes from finding out what you don’t know and taking action on it.
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